Far too many of us have lost our personhood inside parenthood. We define ourselves first and last by our roles as mothers, not remembering that it is a role - it is not who we actually are. Your life is a diamond - motherhood is but one facet of the jewel.
Mothers - I don’t really care that our entire culture tells us otherwise, we have got to reclaim our humanity. We have got to stand in our personhood, stick our elbows out, and make some room for ourselves in the center of our lives. NOW. TODAY. No one else can live it and you cannot live it for anyone else. And I don’t really care that our entire culture tells you otherwise, I am telling you right now that you have got to reclaim your humanity. You have got to stand in your personhood, stick your elbows out, and make some room for yourself in the center of your life.
Empty Nest Syndrome is the feeling of emptiness and loneliness that many parents experience when their child or children leave home. It is not a recognized clinical illness. It's grief.
And change.
And a question: who am I now?
How many times have you opened your mouth only to hear your mother's voice come out? Did you await that day with terror or were you hoping and praying to someday have her grace and wisdom? This post is for the ones of us who dread hearing her voice move through us. It is for the ones who are terrified that we will turn into her.
Where is the support for moms? I hear this question all the time. I ask this question all the time. And the answer is that it’s scarce. We don’t value mothers or mothering in this country. That’s just a fact. And so mothers have stepped up to create networks of support for ourselves. We’re doing the best we can and our best is beautiful.
It is time to grow up. Those are the words my self has been whispering to me.
It is time to grow up.
Hmmm...
I've got two kids, a relationship, and a business. I thought I had.
GROW. UP. The whispers get louder.